YOUR LIFE NEED NOT BE CRIPPLED BY YOUR GRIEF, although in the beginning it feels that way. A few sessions with a professionally trained grief counselor can help you resolve any disabling issues (i.e. anger, panic, guilt, despair, revenge, fear or any other issues that limit your functioning).

HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS TO EASE THE PAIN

ACCEPT THE GRIEF. Roll with the waves of grief, do not feel you need to be brave. Take time to cry. This applies to men and women.

PURPOSEFUL WORK. Keeping busy in frantic activity is not helpful, however doing purposeful work that occupies your mind can be helpful.

TAKE CARE OF YOUR PHYSICAL NEEDS. Eating well, exercising regularly and resting periodically can all help restore your bodys physical needs.

JOIN A GROUP OF OTHERS WHO ARE MOURNING. Your circle of friends may have changed for now, and you will need new friends who understand the experience you have been through. See page 18.

POSTPONE MAJOR DECISIONS. It is difficult to concentrate and make decisions when we have suffered a loss. Hold off any major decisions until a time when you feel more like yourself.

KEEP A JOURNAL. If inclined toward writing, keeping a journal will help get your thoughts and feelings out. It also records your progress.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR RELIGIOUS AFFILIATION. Keeping this connection, or if you have been inactive, reconnecting with your faith may be comforting, both in the relationships and in the teachings.